The best definition I’ve found on stress is that it’s a state caused by shifting energies. So in a work context that might be from phone calls to spreadsheets, to a meeting, to writing a report and meeting a tight deadline.

Breathe.

And breathe again.

And another niiiiice deep breath.

And phew.

What needs to come off your mental bandwidth at the moment to allow you more space for what you are truly here to do/be/have/give/experience?

I like to think of our mental bandwidth as a suitcase. If it’s bulging at the seams there isn’t the room for other things. And it’s such a pain when you open it and everything comes bulging out, and then there is a large wrestle to get it closed again. Compared to having some space. Some room to move. 

On a personal note I am famous in my circles for fitting in more than most – literally and metaphorically. To the point that packed items have trailed out in hotel lobbies from my luggage (totally uncool) and scheduled events have sometimes had to merge so as I could fit it all in. My key to success is in the planning and trusting myself; that I have the ability to respond if things don’t go to plan. And then filtering for lessons after the event.

I loooooove planning by the way – to me it’s a form of play. Send me a sign if you would like a planning coaching session, or a session on discovering more on what is play for you and adapting your career accordingly.

On a second personal note here is another of my secret keys: I’ve spent so much time being terrified of the limelight; of going on stages, giving speeches or performances, and of being in front of people in such a public way. Not that many people seem to know that of me when you look at how much I have done it in my life to-date! To get over a lot of this fear I have a number of parts/faculty members who help me (for those not familiar with the NLP term, ‘parts’ are different aspects of yourself) and I’ve been giving them space to communicate what it is that’s going on for them and/or letting them do the work for me. One key faculty member who has helped me enormously is my Rockstar, whose name is Rox’on. She allows me to play very differently from stage, as sometimes (whether in the role of trainer, facilitator, speaker) I need to own the space and have the attention of the audience focused upon me, as Rockstars do.

Rox’on is completely cool with that – in fact she demands it. She recently performed in the UK and as she was a star performer and was on the cover of the ‘Rolling Boulders’ magazine she was then invited on a VIP Star-Hummer celebratory trip around the sights and clubs of London! The key thing I learnt though from this time of drilling my skills as a speaker and letting her play was that I needed to trust that those parts can do their job for me, even when I am nervous. She is amazing and has taught me sooooooo many lessons. If you are keen to see a snapshot of her just send me a sign, and as her manager I’ll see what I can do for such a fan 🙂