Did the earth move for you too last week? For those of you not in Victoria, we experienced an earthquake on Tuesday night, in Melbourne! It was sizable for us novice earthquakers (5.3 on the richter scale) & lasted around a minute. But what was of note for me was witnessing how we all really do experience things from our own reality, our own belief system and our own blueprint of the world.

And nowhere does this happen more than in relationships. 

At the time when the earthquake struck I was with my family – everything seemed to slow down and I felt like I was watching a scene in a movie. I witnessed one family member grip the chair she was sitting on and start saying out loud that it must be the new dysfunctional solar hot water service on the roof (they have had someone out to look at it four times so far for various faults), somehow dislodging and travelling with great velocity down and off the roof as we spoke. But did that explain the house swaying?

Another fam member had a look of suspicion and fear on his face – a look that conveyed that for him a gang of at least 20 hoons were simultaneously jumping up and down on the verandahs that skirt the house, thereby causing such noise, rumbling and rocking. The question was whether to go out and have a look or keep the doors locked and stay inside.

And as I was watching them both the light fitting swayed from the living room ceiling, and I was wondering what would happen if it were a chandelier – would it sway and break, quite like a Phantom of the Opera moment when the chandelier drops dramatically from the Opera House ceiling?!

What this earthquake experience highlighted for me was we don’t really know what’s going on for another person inside as we come from a different mould; a different mainframe if you like. We can guess, sense, intuit and wonder, but we will never really know unless we ask and they share honestly. Under pressure we revert to our natural instincts and blueprint of the world – often this can be the best time to witness patterns and actively choose a different reality if you have the right help at hand.

My questions to you, to ponder for this week are:

• Where can you share what’s really going on inside for you today, with either yourself or another?
• And in sharing, what is the outcome you want (perhaps it’s stress relief, clarity, support or empathy)?
• In what ways would further development affect you (both professionally and personally)?

As always, if you are ready to bust a belief, feel / look / sound / be different, and are keen to tap into a support team then you know where to find me…………HH

Who else do you know that likes thinking & questioning? Plus being the best that they can be? Well forward this on and invite them into the community 🙂